Wednesday, March 28, 2012
The Scriptural Armory - Teach Wisdom's Ways
"I will teach you wisdom’s ways and lead you in straight paths. When you walk, you won’t be held back; when you run, you won’t stumble. Take hold of my instructions; don’t let them go. Guard them, for they are the key to life"(Proverbs 4:11-13, NLT).
One of the biggest problems with my generation is the distinct inability to make sound decisions. Instead of thinking critically about situations, we tend to simply do what we think everyone else does or whatever feels good at the moment. Personally, when it has come time for me to make big decisions in life, I have often faltered.
For instance, while the average college student changes his major around four times, I changed mine eight times. When it came time to make a decision about buying our first house, I totally jacked it up. We couldn't sell it when we needed to. When we finally did, we had to bring $30k to closing. I know I'm not the only one who gets himself and family into these types of messes.
Look at these statistics. According to CreditCard.com, (source: Sallie Mae, "How Undergraduate Students Use Credit Cards," April 2009), the average college senior graduates with $4,100 in credit card debt. Two thirds of college students graduate with student loan debt. The average of that debt is $24,000 (Source: Demos.org, "The Economic State of Young America," May 2008). The average debt of a person in their twenties is $45,000 including all categories outside of mortgage (source: Debtmerica.com, "Debt Plaguing Young Adults", 2012).
Poor choices are not simply confined to finance, or vocation. According to a study involving 38,000 people, ninety-five percent of Americans have had premarital sex. Additionally, the study found that the rate has been stagnant since the 1950's! (source: Truthdig.com, "95% of Americans Have Had Premarital Sex", 2006).
So how do we step up and stop the cycle? First, we have to learn how to make good decisions. There are lots of resources directed to adults. I searched The Art of Manliness archives and found two solid articles right away. Then, it is up to us as men to involve our kids in decision making. According to Don Keehner. It's super important to show our kids what it looks like to follow God. It can be messy, but life is messy. Knowing that prepares young men to no end.
Next time you have a big decision, use it as an opportunity to "teach wisdom's ways" to the next generation. It might not be picture perfect, but it is sorely needed.