Hello everyone. After a significant sabbatical, Lead Yo Fam will be back in action. I will be posting about once a week rather than once a day.
Looking forward to connecting with you...
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Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Several years ago, I was involved in a prank that rated 10 out of 10 on the camp prank scale. Yes I was the youth minister at the time. Our group was stationed in two different cabins - one for the guys and one for the girls. One night, the girls made the mistake of leaving all their swim stuff out on the railing in front of their cabin to dry.
I remember laying there in the dark talking with the guys, when I wondered out loud, "wouldn't it be cool if we took the girls' swim stuff, tied it in a long rope, and strung it between the roof of that shelter out there and the light post?" It wasn't ten seconds before the guys were out the door.
The prank was fantastic. One of our guys (that I was sure could handle it) climbed on the roof of the shelter and taped the "rope" along the entire length of the roof. Two of the girls had their own life jackets. They made up the ends of our "rope". We sent the tallest guy (happened to be a counselor) up the tallest step ladder we could find positioned on top of a picnic table. He fastened the life jacket about 17 feet up the light pole. It looked like this.
I was sure to wake up early. I crouched behind my car and watched the girls jump to try to reach their stuff. They weren't within five feet of the lowest point. That was one of the most joyful small-scale moments of my life. Kind of sick isn't it?
Getting to the point...
The truth is, I don't engage in pranking very often, though I must say I'm quite good at it. The reason being that pranks quickly go from harmless and funny, to super irritating, to outright harmful very quickly. All it takes is for the intensity to build as each side seeks revenge.
When we extrapolate this phenomenon to our marriages, things can get really hairy. I know one of the biggest problems my wife and I were having in our marriage crisis is keeping score. It just seemed like we were piling on more and more baggage as we would bring up what the other did last. We just couldn't move forward.
The same goes for the way we interact with our kids. It's so easy at the end of a "bad day" with Jr. to point out all the stuff he has done the entire day, even though he was punished and said sorry for each infraction. It's overwhelming to a little one to face everything he's done wrong for an entire day. It's overwhelming for a grown up, for that matter.
Luckily, God doesn't act like that with people. I cower at the thought of facing condemnation for all that I've done today, let alone my entire life. Yet, Jesus took my place on the cross. A really interesting aspect of the cross that I have yet to hear outside of my seminary classes - Jesus, being God, experienced the infinite punishment of mankind in a finite amount of time. It's the bigger picture of the cross - more than a man dying. Many men have died for the Way. Jesus showed us how valuable it is to have a zero-balance account.
1 Corinthians 13:5 says that love is not " . . . irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged"(NLT). It's not just that when we love, we don't get irritable. It's the full sentence. Not only should we stay pleasant, we simply can't keep record of wrongs, then let the record tick us off. If we do, the little prank war will get out of hand before we know it. The tit for tat game will quickly become our entire relationship with our wives or kids.
We have to lead the way in letting it go.
Saturday, April 28, 2012
When we face major life changes, decisions, or transitions, it is unrealistic to expect ourselves to stay motivated and have the same willpower that we normally do. It's important for us to step up and lead our families through these exciting and difficult times.
Friday, April 27, 2012
So this is the end of Desert Week. Hope you enjoyed it.
- In What Is Love? Baby Don't Hurt Me. - Part 6 we learned 10 ways to get over yourself, because love does not demand it's own way.
- In Re: What the Race to the South Pole Can Teach You About How to Achieve Your Goals, we learned that multiplicity in focus is merely unfocused. If you want to be successful in life, you have to have one focus for you and your family. If you are Christian, that focus should be serving God.
Thursday, April 26, 2012
This spring, my dad and I are taking my son camping for the first time. I am in no way a camping expert, and I've never taken little ones with me. While I love to get outside, it has historically revolved around running. It's only in recent years that I have even begun camping. So instead of pretending to know what I'm talking about, here are some nice links to help you in your adventure. Enjoy!
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Losing motivation is honestly one the scariest things that happens to me. It feels like I have no control over it, though I know it has to do with my own brain. Immediately, I see my plans and goals in jeopardy. Nothing says “desert” like being stuck without motivation to get unstuck.
Lack of motivation is something we all deal with. Whether you are trying to lose weight, get in shape, spend more time as a family, read more, or start a side business, your ability to stay motivated can be the limiting agent in your plans.
Luckily, as I’m getting older and more mature, I’m learning how to recharge the old motivation batteries before I find myself facing a complete breakdown. Here are five ways I’ve found to help you when you lose your motivation: